Why You’re Not Changing Like You Want

Are you getting everything out of life that you want? Probably not or you would not be reading this blog. At the same time are you tired of being told that you can have everything in life you want? Me too. The fact is the more you strive to have everything the less likely you are to get it. But do not give up. Even if you cannot have everything, you can have a lot more than you do now.

My entire life I have wanted to be a better person. Every year I vowed to do so. Within a month or two I became inundated with opportunities to positively alter my behavior. I could not keep up with them. Reflecting back at year-end I could see I had not changed. I was the living definition of insanity: I kept trying the same thing while expecting a different result. About a year ago I gave up on being a better person toward everyone.

Instead, I decided to focus on three people. Then for each one, I decided on two or three behaviors that I was going to do or stop doing. I could remember the three people and when with one of them could keep in mind the two or three changes I was determined to make.

Looking back on the past year I was about 50% successful in implementing the changes. Coming from 0% all those previous years this seems like good progress.

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For all it was touted, you cannot multitask. Keeping more than a few things in mind is very difficult. Why set yourself up for failure? If you want to change:

Limit Your Subjects to Three

Do you want to make more money? Decide on the three abilities you need to improve and two or three specific actions to take for each one. Practice every day. You will make progress.

Want to improve your health? Choose three aspects on which to work and plan two or three changes for each one. Will you be physically fit a year later? Maybe not, but you will have gained substantial headway. Do this for a few years then reflect back. The change will astonish you.

Concrete, incremental change built into the way you live your life will take you farther than any other plan.

While not exciting or swift, this method is effective. No matter your age, if you begin now you can profoundly improve. Further, the control you will gain over your life will demonstrate to you that you can live intentionally, spurring you on to conquer greater challenges.

Question – What have you been challenged to change that you could break down into smaller tasks?
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