0:00 and we're here every Wednesday at 10:00 a.m. Pacific time that puts us at 1 a uh 1 p.m. on the East Coast not 1:00 am that that's a little too early for me although I guess it would only be 10 o'clock my time but by then I'm I'm I'm in bed asleep so and of course an hour in for Central and mountain and we on this show we talk about all things related to professional success and and wealth building so today I'm I'm going to do something a little bit different um I I don't think I've done a show like this for gosh maybe a a year and a half
0:36 or more um I when back when I did um the uh the the studio uh set version of the way to wow show um we I did a couple of them on um books sometimes I had the authors and other times not um in this case I'm I'm going to talk about a book that my uh my aunt naen introduced me to a number of years ago and it's a short book but very powerful
1:12 and I I remember it to this day and and refer back to it for those of you who are wondering well what book is this the book is called The Four Agreements and it's by Don Miguel Ruiz um I I I don't frankly know very much about Mr Ruiz um only that he is uh to my mind very wise um and this this book um definitely impacted my life so he calls it a a practical guide to personal
1:49 freedom so you might be thinking well what does this have to do with professional success and wealth building so my guess is that as you look for those those things in your life they're part of a larger uh desire for personal freedom the ability to do the things that you want to do be involved with people you like and trust and people you love being be engaged in activities that you find um stimulating worthwhile and these kind of things and
2:26 so um while um Don Miguel ruiz's purpose I think is broader than what we talk about here on in on people making money I think that it undergirds what it is we're we're looking to accomplish um so I'm not gonna you know read from the book first of all that would probably be a copyright violation and and I I don't want to um I don't want to do that um and but but but also I want to kind of
3:01 give you my if you will spin on it and and and and how I uh apply this to my life because I think that um any philosophy that we read about and choose to adopt um it's it's we probably don't want to adopt it um on someone else's terms if that makes sense so I think we have to make it our own um the this was a lesson actually I learned early in my business career um there was a a sales trainer by the way by the name of uh
3:37 Tommy Hopkins um i' I've mentioned U Tommy before I'll call him Tommy because i' I've met him so um and he was a a very successful real estate agent in uh here in Southern California I believe in Orange County back in the 70s uh and and he he started out with with nothing not knowing anything and he had to learn how to sell real estate and eventually he started what he called a sales boot camp uh this was before everything was a boot camp so
4:13 we're we're going back decades and I I took his boot camp I I believe it was in late the late 1980s it was in a huge Hotel ballroom at a hotel down by Los Angeles International Airport thousands of people there um and and and it was a an inspiring experience one of the messages that Tommy Hopkins really worked to help us absorb was that we had to take what he was teaching us and make it our own so the idea that we
4:48 were going to you know use it in the same way he did that was not what he was after he wasn't trying to make little Tommy Hopkins clones he was was in in my case for example trying to make help me make a better version of Kevin bemel and so and I do think that um that is what great teachers do for us they don't attempt to indoctrinate us into their philosophy they work with us to absorb
5:24 new ideas that we then apply to our lives to become more of the person that we seek to be certainly and I'm not saying I'm a great teacher so but that is certainly what I seek to do through my shows um I tell this to my daughter all the time you know Lord forbid you become another me you really don't want to do that what you want to be is is the meline bemel that you want to be so uh there's one other thing I wanted to point out about this book so um in addition to it being
6:01 a practical guide to personal freedom um uh Don Miguel Ruiz calls it a toltech wisdom book um and and and candidly I I I don't know anything about toltech wisdom other than what I've read in this book um but if if if that sort of Sparks your interest um I I would en I encourage you to to get your own copy of of the book um there will be a link to it in the show notes and a link just you know full disclosure uh and and it it's a short book it's I think 100 yeah 150
6:37 Pages basically um so you can see very you know and and the pages are small so you know you can read this book in gosh you know an a couple of hours at the most in one one one sitting um you know it's it's it's a it's a great thing on a you know cold rainy day sit in front of the fireplace and and and absorb Don Miguel ruiz's wisdom so I'm going to like I said I'm going to give you um my take on it and and as is my practice I put together a little presentation on this so uh you know here it is um Don
7:13 Miguel ruiz's The Four Agreements so uh there we go okay so you know if I repeat this I think almost every show you know for those who may be new so everything we do here is based on the three pillars of attainment and uh while generally speaking on people making money we're dealing in the Pursuits pillar and the finances realm today I think we're really dealing more in the self realm a self pillar I mean and in the identity
7:49 and mindset Realms so uh I I do think that this philosophy will um improve your health because it will improve improve your mindset and and and all of these things work together of course um but if if we're living more integrated lives lives where we you know understand ourselves better I think inevitably we're going to be healthier um and and and indeed this philosophy I think will also help improve our relationships so um this this is a slide here um you
8:25 know showing the book that I was just showing you and I I want I did want to point out you know sort of social proof as they say so The Four Agreements is is it was published in 19797 and it sold over 10 million copies um in the United States alone so it's it's it's been on the New York Times bestseller list for almost a decade um and and and I think this this kind of sums it up here says everything we do is based on agreements we have made agreements with ourselves with other people with God and with life but the the most important Agreements are the
9:00 ones we make with ourselves and uh while you know religious people may say no no no the most important agreements we make are with god well I I I don't I we make agreements with god um but the reality is that you know God is much more forgiving than most people um and so while we make agreements with god um you know those of us who do make agreements with God I guess I should say um and and they're certainly important um I think if we're honest
9:35 with ourselves we're we're not nearly as diligent in keeping those agreements uh as we ought to be and yet uh God you know seems to give us Grace so um the agreements we make with ourselves uh are the ones that most impact us on a you know month by month year by year week by week day by day even hour by hour minute by minute basis um and it it has a lot to do they have a lot to do with how we perceive ourselves how we treat ourselves and of course all
10:11 of that um relates to um to uh um how uh we treat other people and and and therefore um the kind of success we're going to have especially um uh professional success so um I I think that's really at at the heart of of what we're going to be talking about today so here are The Four Agreements oh that's weird it it shifted on us um okay well in in any event um I think we we can read these so number one be impeccable with your word number two
10:47 don't take anything personally number three don't make assumptions and number four always do your best right now you may look at these and say well you know gosh my my my parents taught me some if not all of these I I I I I think that's true my my dad taught me to be impeccable with my word and my mother taught me to always do your best um I wish they had taught me don't take anything personally and don't make assumptions um they they didn't um but I you know I i' I've learned those along
11:22 the way and and I think all four of these put together help help us be much more complete stable people so um in Hebrew and and many of you may have heard this term uh Shalom so it's typically used as as a greeting Shalom as in hello um but it's and it's used as a way to say goodbye Shalom um but what what Shalom really means is um and you also hear Shalom used to mean peace
11:59 as in peacefulness uh what Shalom really means at its root is wholeness and when are we at peace when we feel whole wh l e um and and and so um when we say when we greet someone with by saying Shalom we're actually not saying hello or goodbye what we're saying in essence is like peace be upon you and and literally what we're saying
12:35 is may you be whole right and and imagine a world where more often than not we feel whole so if if that is if if that is something that we seek so I think these uh Four Agreements and these are agreements we make with ourself they're not agreements we make with the world per se okay there are agreements we make with ourselves so I agree that I'm going to be impeccable with my word I agree that I'm not going to take anything personally I agree that
13:12 I'm I'm not going to make assumptions and I'm an I agree to always do my best those are the agreements we make with ourselves okay so I'm going to go into each one of these in in more depth now and and I again this is this is how I um this is this is how I've um internalized them if you will um and um you won't necessarily find these ideas in uh Don Miguel ruiz's book um but what what I'm what I'm hoping to show you is
13:47 the process by which you can really make this this book this philosophy a part of yourself okay so number one be impeccable with your word so I think you know words you know I I I I I I in some way I think words have have gotten cheapened in our society um and certainly they seem to have gotten coarsened um so for for example um you know when I was U you know a child a
14:22 teenager you would never hear profanity used on television um and and or or radio for that matter um you did in the movies if it was a you know like a PG-13 movie or something like that or an R-rated movie of course um but today you will hear course language pretty much anywhere and and I I would argue that um that that this coarsening of the use of words is is having a negative impact on
14:58 on on us um and and and on our society but primarily it's on each one of us as an individual so um you know this I'm this is going to sound judgmental I suppose um but the the English language in particular is is such a a descriptive language um I I've forgotten how many words there are in it I think there's something like um a million words or two million words I mean it's it's it's it's hugely descriptive language you know as
15:34 opposed to Hebrew which I don't want to say Hebrew is not descriptive but but the number of root words in Hebrew is like 22,000 okay so one word can be used in many different contexts Now Hebrew is a spiritual language and and and it so underpin it is a our spiritual Concepts English is English is meant to be a very descriptive uh and it's it's well I don't know it's meant to be it's grown
16:10 into be a very descriptive precise almost scientific language okay now the reason I say all these things is um words are not just important words have power So speaking from religious standpoint for a moment um there's a philosophy or an idea in Judaism that um this the the story in Genesis where you know and and God said you know let there be light and there was light and God saw that the light was
16:46 good and you know and the god separated the darkness from the light and etc etc etc okay so there's an idea that that that um those that statement is meant literally so God used words to create the world okay and prior to using those words and and of course there's a whole discussion here about how does God use words God is is not you know corporeal he has no body um at least the Father in Heaven has no no body or never has had a
17:24 body I think those kind of questions are best you know discussed over a you know a bourbon or a a nice you know nice glass of wine um but but the the fundamental idea behind or the fundament yeah the fundamental philosophy behind this idea is the The Power of Words when we speak something we are either creating or destroying okay and so when we say be impeccable with your word what we're saying I mean in this case we're talking about word as as a um
17:59 proxy for doing what you say right be impeccable with you know following through if you will okay but I I I I I also in my mind I expand this to be careful with your maybe words okay if you're going to say something take responsibility for what you've said that's part of being impeccable with your words okay so you know people these days I think have been habituated to saying
18:35 often times some very egregious things okay um and then you know someone says something egregious back to them and they're offended that the person says something egregious back to them it's like well you're you're getting as as you're giving so if you don't want to be attacked like that then don't attack people be impeccable with your word okay so um uh so so that's that's that's a fundamental part of his by me
19:10 like in in essence I I I speak to people the way I want to be spoken to that's part of me being impeccable with my word right um and and and and that's that's a sort of a sub agreement if you will of this idea of you know I've agreed to be impeccable with my word okay so um uh without sin shoot I'm trying to remember why I put this in here okay
19:47 um so um I I've gone up in that I'm not going to spend time REM it so another part of this is gossip so um for those of you who are you know regular Watchers of the show you know I've talked about this idea of Gossip or what's called in Hebrew Lush and hor which means like the evil tongue or the evil mouth evil evil language okay so if we're impeccable with our word okay we don't go around in public
20:24 saying terrible things about people even if they're true okay now we may know something bad about another person and we may like for example we may know that they're when it comes to business dealings they're dishonest okay and we may know someone who's contemplating um you know going into business with this person okay so to go to the to go to that person and say I understand you're thinking about getting going into business with this other person I I just just I just need to tell
20:59 you something about him for you to take into account okay now that's not gossip you're trying to prevent in that case you're trying to prevent somebody from being harmed okay but to broadcast that about the person um just you know to whomever um you know might might hear it whether they have a reason to know it or not that already Rises to the level of Gossip okay and and and and that is I would argue not being impeccable with your word okay so
21:36 in the end we can use our word to create bonds or create a club okay you see this in particular when people say a person will say a terrible thing to someone else and then they'll say I'm just being honest right they're essentially using the truth to Club the person and make them you know hurt them in essence okay so again I I would argue that's not being impeccable with your
22:12 word okay is this really what you want to be doing in the world okay or is your word more valuable than that so that when you say something it really can be relied upon but on by other people and it and it's something that can be used to create it's and it and it affects the creation of of bonds with other people okay so be impeccable with your word do what you say don't say it unless you're going to follow through and be careful
22:47 how you express it okay be be impeccable with your word okay next don't take anything personally so I I I've had this conversation with um a number of people including my daughter I think it's one of the most important lessons that we can um absorb and that is people who we don't know will
23:24 sometimes and if we're in the public eye maybe often times say terrible things about us and I and my my question is why does that matter that person knows nothing about us even if we're a in the public eye okay all they know is what we present in public they know little if anything about our private lives they probably know little or little if anything about our our values okay especially for an entertainer right we're playing a part
24:02 so uh you know you you you I don't know any you know current current uh you know popular culture so I'm not going to speak to that but you take the example of um the movie that leaps to mind is um The Treasure of the Sierra Madre it's one of the great Humphrey Bogart movies right and he plays a pretty villainous character um in in the movie um actually I'm sorry I've got a better example I've got a better example just it just leap to mine so um when when I
24:37 was a you know younger guy there was a a very popular comedian around by the name of Don Rickles and Don Rickles comedy was based on insulting other people and back when I was younger I I just I really did not like Don rickle comedy uh it it offended me okay and then a little bit later in life I learned that Don Rickles was one
25:12 of the nicest sweetest most loyal and most giving people in the entertainment business and um I think I saw um a roast of him and and of course in a roast people come up and you know they they you know make fun of the you know person being roasted um but usually well not usually but o oftentimes um at the end of their you know stick that they do they they sort of step out of the roasting role and they talk about who
25:48 the person truly is and what was amazing about Don Rickles is how is how many people said that despite what you see on the stage this is just a fundamentally decent giving man right so here's someone who is in the public eye really his whole life um and to judge him on you know his comedy was was a a a big mistake was a big mistake so to let
26:26 strangers have an impact on how we perceive ourselves I think is an equally big mistake they know nothing about us they're just taking pot shots okay and and they're trying to get under our skin they're their attempt to do that says far more about them their own self-perception their own insecurities than it says about us because it says nothing about us they know nothing about us now you might saywell but what if my spouse says
27:01 something horrible about us about me well okay yeah that that can that can hurt okay that can hurt and this goes into the next Point choosing to be hurt in the fundamentally we decide whether we're going to let words hurt us right if you recall the the old uh saying I think you know from when I was a kid sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me okay
27:38 now you know I've had people tell me and I've thought from time to time that well words can be very harmful and the truth of the matter is yes they can be very harmful if we choose to let them be harmful that's the key okay so the the the fact that um um people say hurtful things that people who know us say hurtful things about us okay hopefully we can train ourselves and and I I'll admit
28:13 I'm I'm I'm much better about letting strangers you know insults roll off my back than than insults that come from people who who know me especially people who claim to care about me um but we can look we can listen to what they say and try and in essence climb behind it and and figure out why are they saying this to me why why are they trying to hurt me this person supposedly cares about me
28:48 why are they trying to hurt me okay and often times I think what we'll find is that that person is hurting and in their pain they're lashing out at us so if we can choose to not be hurt by what this person says we will be in a better position to help them okay and and if we can help them then perhaps they're going to see that
29:24 they're lashing out at us was um uncalled for or unjustified and in the end our our relationship will become closer and hopefully that person will will learn um a better way to approach us so rather than attacking us when they're feeling awful maybe they'll come to us and say you know I'm I'm feeling awful and I'm I I don't I don't want to attack you maybe like you know like what happened last time and I I just don't know what to do I feel so so angry right obviously that's a better
30:01 way to deal with the situation than to you know throw anger at someone we care about right upsetting them and then we get into a fight and and all of that kind of thing right so it is true we choose to be hurt now it can be difficult to choose not to be hurt but but just because a choice is difficult doesn't mean that it's not a choice okay and I think we need to keep that in mind right many times choosing
30:37 the the the best path if you will um can be very difficult okay but in this particular agreement we have with ourselves I think it's it's it's crucial okay we exercise that kind of self-discipline okay and finally so this is what leads to authenticity okay now by the way if you want to be the kind of person who agre justly attacks other people strangers or or people you know and maybe care about okay I guess that's that's that's being
31:15 authentic right um and if you want to be the kind of person who's um whose emotional well-being um is um subject to um what strangers you know say to you uh so then I guess taking things personally leads you to your authentic self but to the extent that we want to be self-possessed people so not taking anything personally will lead us to a greater sense of
31:54 authenticity okay so um if if you know if a if a stranger insults me um I can just smile and you know go on my way that's all don't have to let them change me from who I truly want to be which is someone who can create durable bonds with other people for our mutual benefit okay all right next don't make assumptions okay I I think we see this a lot
32:31 today so somebody will say something and we will assume that they mean you know whatever whatever it is we think that they mean okay and we then we take our interpretation as being the truth of what they they've said okay so someone I'm trying to think of an example
33:07 um well gosh when is it coming to me I I had one prepared and I I lost it um but so uh I I want to create something good that's not political frankly um so um oh okay so here's one here's one um I I was um I was uh uh someone I know and I were were texting uh yesterday evening okay and um and the person asked me a
33:45 couple of questions um and I responded to the questions and I never got a response back and and and my my initial assumption was oh I I wonder if those answers offended this person it's not someone I know particularly well um but um you know the first thing I left to was um oh gosh I I I think I must have offended this person and and I could I could almost
34:22 feel my mind making that the truth okay but in the reality I have no idea why the person didn't respond okay person might have gotten distracted the person might have I don't know fallen asleep the person might have had an engagement that had to be taken care of okay or maybe the person was offended by what I said I mean I I hope not I thought it was pretty I don't know why but you know I seemed you know just pretty neutral to me okay but but but
34:58 maybe but my assumptions about what was going on do not in any way shape or form necessarily lead me to the truth my assumptions my assumption might have been the truth but I have no way of knowing that okay so I don't know maybe I'll hear from the person today or tomorrow or whatever and um you know the person might oh you know sorry I I you know I fell as sleep you know okay you know no harm no foul right so if we can
35:33 avoid making assumptions we can avoid hurting ourselves okay because well or we can avoid hurting other people or both right so in my case the Assumption was a self-critical assumption oh I did something wrong okay but another person in the same situation might have said well this person's arrogant asks me questions I respond and then you know nothing like how arrogant is this person it's like that assumption is no more
36:09 correct necessarily than than mine was and and and knowing the person that I mean that that's why I didn't you know have that assumption okay um so what we assume and what the truth is often times are very different things and the idea that somehow we know better or we have such profound insight into other people or into different um things that happen in our lives um we're we're leading ourselves down the golden path as as uh as the saying
36:46 goes okay so how do we avoid making assumptions then and and to do that I think we need to ask questions so if something happens that causes to kind of you know what's going on here I I I you know scratch your what's I I don't understand what's going on here so rather than making assumptions ask questions okay so for example I could have I could have sent a message to the person um saying you know are you there you know um or did I say
37:21 something that offended you um you know and and and frankly I was tired and I I think I fell asleep shortly thereafter so you know I just I didn't follow up with any questions okay um and and the and frankly it it's it's not a big a big thing um one way or the other um you know if it if it had been um you know a more crucial situation then you know the I think the best response for me would have been to um ask questions okay now keep in mind I could have asked questions and still still gotten no
37:57 response that still wouldn't have meant that my assumption was you know my initial assumption was correct the person could have fallen as sleep so I could ask questions all night the person's asleep you know that kind of thing right so um you know what what might be a better thing is is you know like if you're face Toof face well then so then clearly you can continue to be engaged and and you can ask questions clarify make sure you understand what the person really means okay or what they really meant by a particular action um now and this is why you know things
38:32 like texting and email can be somewhat problematic because we're we're not engaged face Toof face and so there's there's kind of a a big incentive almost if you will to um you know to make assumptions and and all of that and and you know that's that's that's not a a good practice okay so third agreement don't make assumption okay fourth agreement number four always do your best okay I would argue this
39:07 should be the standard for performance in our lives okay we should renounce Perfection okay we're never going to be perfect we're human beings we're never going to be perfect and the desire to be perfect seems to lead to stasis the the inability to act or speak or whatever as it does to encouraging us to you know become ever more
39:43 perfect I think we're far more likely to become better if we strive to always do our best in in any particular situation this this is a lesson that I'm I'm I'm you know I wish I could like inject it into my daughter that she would you know teenagers I think a lot of teenagers are like this they think they have to be perfect because you know teenagers can be very mean to each other and so it seems like well but if I can only be perfect then everybody will like me no
40:19 one will be mean to me and all that kind of stuff and of course that's not the case any of you know any of you who have gone through high school you know that's not the case um it's this is just the Human Condition so um I I think the pursuit of perfection is as likely to cause us to um um experience emotional pain um and also to cause us to um not be able to improve as as it is to you know motivate us to improve rather I I think um Don
40:56 Miguel Ruiz is correct What We should strive for is to always do our best okay now what our best is is going to change from moment to moment okay so right now um I'm you know pretty well rested you know I had my cup of coffee well my cup of decaf I know that sounds very geriatric I've had my cup of decaf um and uh you know um I I I feel you know strong and all that kind of stuff and so the uh you know the
41:34 performance I can give is you know a best performance is is better than it would be if I had to do this show at say you know 6: PM my time when I've been up already for 12 hours I've been working all day I'm tired you know may have gotten sort of you know buffeted about by you know daily life or whatever okay so my best at that moment is not going to be the same as my best right now it just isn't okay and one of the reasons why I do my shows um at at 10: amm my
42:12 time is so that I'm more likely to be um you know in a in a mindset of resilience and openness and all those kind of things that will allow me to do my best best if you will okay and so always doing our best I think also means treating ourselves with a little bit of Grace and understanding what what how how do I Define my best at this moment in time okay so it's very easy to be disappointed in ourselves and and
42:49 sometimes by the way we don't do our best that's that is the reality of it okay so we didn't do our best how can we improve for next time that's the underlying question behind fulfilling the agreement to always do our best okay if I did a subb performance how can I be how can I create a situation where I'm more likely to do my best uh next time okay so I I was in a a very long meeting yesterday over four hours and uh you know
43:26 after I got done with the meeting and I I was driving back uh back home and one of the things I did is is I went over in my mind you know Kevin how did you do did you do your best could you have done better okay now part of knowing what my best was was understanding what was my goal or goals for the meeting okay and as I reflected on that I concluded that I think I I I did a you know a respectable job was it my
44:02 absolute best not sure I think there were a couple things that I did that you know if if I had it to do over again kind of thing I might you know do differently but but overall I I think I you know I you know I I I don't have any reason to you know castigate myself I'll put it to you that way okay um now um as the meeting wore on it got harder for me to do my best um because it was exhausting okay and for an introvert like me being in a meeting with several people pulls
44:39 energy out of me so the longer I'm in a meeting like that the harder it is for me to do my best for extroverts they draw energy from other people okay and so in in in many ways being around people they get stronger because they're pulling more and more energy now fortunately I think everyone in the meeting were were were fairly introverted in that sense and so um you know uh we weren't pulling a lot of energy from each other and I think that's why overall the meeting went pretty well um at one point there was uh
45:16 somebody in the meeting who I think is very was very extroverted and and I could feel him sort of pulling energy out of me now it was okay it was toward the beginning of the meeting and uh you know it worked out well um and and he and and the other fellow he was there with were very pleased um by you know what we discussed and all of that so so fine but we need to be aware of some of these Dynamics about ourselves in order to optimize our performance okay now this is the the the
45:53 the last point I'm going to make here um and that is reject suffering and choose happiness what I found generally speaking is people who pursue Perfection are seeking suffering because no matter what they do they do not perform perfectly and so they're unhappy with themselves and in essence they're they're forcing themselves to suffer
46:31 because of the standard that they've set and I think that's unfortunate if we choose to always do our best while we will at times fall short of that standard okay we can say okay how did I fall short what lessons do I have for next time and and rather than suffering we can be ha content if not happy with our performance and sort of you know live to
47:06 fight emotionally at least another day or live to interact with people another day so that's what I mean by reject suffering and choose happiness find your way of doing your best in a manner that will support yourself emotionally okay okay now I I I I had a conversation with a friend I don't know I it was this week early this week or maybe it was last week I don't recall exactly now and we were talking about this idea of
47:41 pursuing Perfection and he he was fairly committed to the idea that the the pursuit of perfection um motivated him so okay I mean I'm not I'm not going to argue if that's if that's what he believes fine I mean I'm I'm I don't argue beliefs okay as we continued the discussion though um he differentiated between pursuing Perfection and this idea of achieving
48:16 Perfection so he agreed that the idea of achieving Perfection is is silly we're not going to achieve perfection but he see for him to articulate it as the pursuit of perfection that motivates him to being in sort of continually trying to improve mode okay I mean I can I can hear that distinction so for me I I I find I get too caught up in in this idea of being perfect by using the concept of of
48:52 perfection okay but um look you know how you articulate these ideas to yourself I mean you know do it in a way that most empowers you um and and and again I'm I'm I'm showing you how I've absorbed this material but that's not to say that you should absorb it in the same way okay so the fourth agreement always do your best all right and that that I think that's it right yep here we go so if you have any questions um comments um you know you especially if you
49:28 disagree with something that I said always uh like to hear why um people disagree with me um and you can post a comment in any of our social media or if it's something private you can send me an email I'm happy to um you know email with you and um and hear your your ideas and and um you know perhaps share them uh on a future show so if there's you know something you disagree with and and uh you know I think that and it and it's something that I think other people ought to hear I'm happy to um you know
50:03 mention that on on a future show and and and you know with with your permission even cite you as as being the source uh for this for this you know different idea okay so here we go and then we have our legal stuff which which you you've seen we go ahead and close the presentation so um we're we're I'm going to wrap up the show a little bit early today um there's no no point in sort of dragging things out just for the sake of uh of you know uniform length of time but I I I do thank you for uh tuning in and watching and I you know again I I I
50:39 recommend you read uh Don Miguel Louise's book very very powerful um and it's and because it's so short it is the kind of book that you can um reread periodically and and and and get more out of each time uh you you know you read the book again so thanks again for tuning in this this show wraps up our our week um and uh so I'm going to wish you a wonderful rest of the day and rest of the week I'll be back on Monday at 10: am Pacific time with trust and
51:15 Estates weekly my guest is going my guest is going to be Mary Jane Charles and she has written a book called the business of dying and I I encourage you to tune in and um listen to U Mary Jane's perspective um and and and hear her story um especially if you have a a rather modest estate so Mary Jean's book and and and her perspective I think will help you a lot because
51:52 she's going to sort of give you the ability to do estate planning on your own or mostly on your own with with maybe a you know a minimal of cost um and and need for Consulting with you know potentially expensive uh professionals so um again do tune in and uh uh and join us at 10: a.m Pacific Time Monday morning for trust and Estates weekly Tuesday of next week at 10: am business lessons from the military and then a week from today for the next edition of people making money so wishing you again a wonderful day and
52:27 rest of the week and signing off Marie You Are My Belle all the best folks