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Practice DOESN'T Make Perfect
November 6, 2024
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[0:02] who are you and where are you going what do you [Music] want hello and welcome to people making money I'm your host Kevin bemel and we are here every Wednesday at 10:00 a.m. Pacific time to talk to you about matters related to professional and business success and wealth building we it's it's the broadest uh array of

[0:37] topics of of any of my shows and this this particular one is is an outgrowth of my of the original way to Wild shows which is why in the crawl below below me you see that uh it's it's in its fifth season so um today I'm I'm I I've started kind of an informal series within this particular show so talking about uh books that are that I have found very useful to gaining or to to building my skills to improving

[1:13] my ability to to accomplish the goals and objectives that I set for myself and um somebody once told me that um these days um our best mentors often times are books and and I think that that's very much the case so whereas it can be um difficult to find a a human mentor and you know people are busy and and and so um it it feels like we're we're maybe

[1:48] impinging on them or on their family time if if you know we have an active mentoring relationship with someone a book has there's there's no no such problem with a book it's it's always there for us um the author um if it's a well-written book has has you know really created a resource that that we can use and so um you know aside from being a bibliophile I I am a a a a big believer um in books and I I realized I I meant to grab um the book uh um so that you could

[2:25] see it um and I I had to be in a in a hearing this morning um so I I I won't be able to do that so what I'll do is I'm going to bring it up on Amazon um so that you can see um the the the particular book um that I'm going to be talking about today so I'm going to go ahead and and and share my screen as they say and let's see where is it oh okay so there you can see it um off to the side um and the name of the book is um

[3:02] practice perfect let's see if I can move it over here so so you see you see it a little bit bigger um and the book is written by uh Doug Lov I think that's how his name is pronounced um Erica uh woolway and um uh uh Katie yezi and Dan Heath oh Dan Heath read wrote the forward so it was it was written now 12 years ago um and you can see the topic 42 Rules for getting better at getting better so if you saw any of the

[3:37] promotions for the show um you you saw that um pra i i i Capt or I I um titled the show practice does not make perfect so the problem with that old adage and and I don't know about you but I was raised on the adage practice makes perfect right the problem with that is is if we're practicing in such a way that doesn't lead to Improvement what the practice does is it keeps us in a mediocre state or worse it it keeps us

[4:13] using essentially habitualized behavior that is counter to our being able to reach whatever goal or objective we've set for ourselves and so in order for practice to be effective the practice needs to be of a particular type and that's the that's the argument that Lov at Al um make in their books so um I'm not going to go through all 42 that's way too much but but I i' I've done a select list of of of 10 um that

[4:52] um that will um allow allow you to get kind of the flavor of of the book and hopefully we encourage you to to get and read the book because I think you will find that um it will absolutely be one of the most one of the best mentoring tools um that that you've you've ever that you've ever used so um like I said I'm not I'm just going to kind of go through them um it's going to be I think a bit of a shorter show today so um the first thing is we don't we we shouldn't

[5:28] engage engage in practice we need to engage in what Lov and and I'm just going to use Lov as as the Shand for all the authors um calls deliberate practice so this really emphasizes that it has a struct it's structured and purposeful practice okay we're not just repeating tasks okay we're we're we're practicing with a particular goal in mind so I'll give you a a a a an example of what I mean so when I was a child my my dad was

[6:06] really into sports he played football in college he played basketball um not not in college but I'm not not you know college level per se but he played basketball he swam he was a lifeguard he was a small arms instructor I mean all ve very athletic guy and one of his fondest hopes was that his son would uh follow in his footsteps athletically a a and I'm sorry to report that I pretty much dashed that hope um on my father's part although the day

[6:42] that I started on my soccer team in junior high school my dad may have been the proudest man um in the world and then when I broke my collar bone playing soccer he knew that I was completely committed or maybe should have been committed um but anyway my Dad when I was a kid wanted to teach me how to dribble a basketball okay and you know the way I looked at it was dribbling a basketball is just you know slapping the basketball but indeed that's actually not and my dad showed me you know you you you you

[7:18] actually dribble with your fingertips because that's the what gives you ball control okay and the the problem for me was I found that boring right so I was so all the all the times that I play basketball all of them poorly right I I I did not have the self-discipline to do deliberate practice meaning really focus on the proper way to dribble a basketball okay and you know I just wanted to be like the players I saw on

[7:54] TV really fast and agile but of course you don't start out that way you start out slowly and so my dad would encourage me just just dribble it slowly don't worry about speed worry about be focus on technique and and once you've ingrained the technique then you can work on on Speed and Agility and all of that okay so um unfortunately uh I just like I said I didn't have the self discipline to engage in deliberate practice I would just practice but the practice wasn't

[8:29] doing me any good because it wasn't improving my skill at dribbling a basketball so you say well who you know who cares about dribbling a basketball well I'm just using that as an example um but I I think it's even if you're not into basketball like like me I'm not into basketball but you I think you can you can see that the difference between trying to dribble a basketball flat handed where you're kind of slapping at it and getting used to dribbling it essentially with your fingertips where they're almost acting like shock absorbers right those are very different things and and maybe intuitively you can

[9:07] sense that actually if you do it the correct way it gives you a lot more ball control and of course in basketball ball control is essentially everything if you can't control the ball you're not going to get a chance to shoot and if you don't get a chance to shoot you're not going to score and your team's not going to win right okay so that's that's number one it's not about practice it's about deliberate practice that focuses on a specific goal or a specific element that needs to improve number two skills need to be broken down okay so like I

[9:45] I'm going to continue with the with the dribbling example because I I think it it it so illustrates what we're talking about so it may not seem like it but dribbling a basketball is a complex task Okay so it you know standing in place and dribbling isn't necessarily particularly complex but of course standing in place and dribbling doesn't get you anywhere right because you got to be able to move the ball up and down the court um and get to the place where you can shoot and hopefully score a goal right so the the process of dribbling and and and moving

[10:21] that is a complex task because you can't you know the other the other one of the things I did not have particularly good um eye hand coordination and in order to be able to dribble effectively if you've ever watched you know professional even college players right they're not watching where they're they're not watching their hand right they're they're you know keeping an eye out on on where it were the other team members um and where are the opponent opposition team members right so you've got to be able to keep situational awareness at the same time that you're controlling the ball and moving on the court um and

[11:00] keeping in mind that there's something called traveling where um if if you move without dribbling the ball essentially that's that's a uh not a foul but it's it's not allowed in basketball and so that that would mean you know turning over possession of the ball right and so this is a complex it's a complex uh skill dri dribbling the basketball and so it needs to be broken down and that's one of that's one of the things my dad worked with me on you know he say don't worry about moving don't worry about moving fast just concentrate first of

[11:36] all just on getting habituating this motion with using your fingertips right that was the first step if I had been able to master that then I could have potentially gone on to you know mastering that that that part of that skill with moving right and then eventually as I got skilled enough at dribbling properly in terms of my hand and being able to move and still control the ball I could stop you know having to focus on my my you know watching my dribbling and I could you know develop

[12:13] my situational Awareness on the court while still retaining ball control right so those are different steps and each each would you know each would be designed to be a manageable part of deliberate practice but but trying to um do all of them at once is is it's too complex and and no part of the skill could be mastered and so the skill itself wouldn't be mastered okay so that's that's number two number

[12:48] three focus on feedback so get getting feedback is essential and this is where having a great Co coach or a great teacher is so important now if you if you recall the show I did on Talent is overrated one of the key aspects of of becoming talented because indeed we're not really born talented per se we develop Talent so I I use the examples of Mozart and um oh shoot I'm

[13:25] going up his name Tiger Woods the the the famous golfer okay both of them had extraordinary coaches teachers in their fathers who from a very early age gave them the kind of feedback they needed to improve now excuse me in it's in essence what they were doing was they were engaging in the kind of practice that Lov advocates in his book right and and so that's what it takes so someone who will

[14:00] watch what we're doing and and give us that continual constructive criticism okay so for for my dad you know I would I would start out you know dribbling with my fingertips but inevitably I'd get lazy and start you know using my palm and he'd say keep it on the fingertips keep it on the fingertips you know that kind of thing right and and um and and and again you know that that may sound trite but but that's that kind of continuous constructive criticism um first of all I think it

[14:36] justes a couple of things obviously one thing that it does is it it it it keeps us focused on the the the kind of deliberate practice we need to be doing to improve the skill but second of all it desensitizes to us it Des I'm sorry it desens desensitizes us to receiving criticism and interpreting it as negative okay so for a lot of people even if they're given genuine constructive criticism it still feels

[15:11] like they're they're being put down or they're being negatively criticized so especially as we work with our our children especially young children if we can help them learn to to accept constructive criticism as the avenue to getting better at what they're doing now by the way constructive criticism is different than praise okay so it's one thing to say to them you know you're doing great that's really good I mean some encouragement is is is fine as well

[15:48] but to get them used to you know something like it'll be better if you do it this way or keep it on the fingertips keep it on the fingertips those kinds of things okay we we we hopefully we we raise children and and and then into adults who are not so sensitive to getting feedback that will help them improve I.E constructive criticism okay but we if we want to get better um and if if we have to give up this idea that anytime someone suggests a different way for us

[16:24] to do something that that's a that you know that's a hit to to our ego or it's a put down okay we we have to look at it contextually we have to understand who is the person what is their relationship to us you know why are they saying these things to us and we need to acclimate ourselves to the point where we're really welcoming uh feedback that will help us improve okay next we have to make practice consistent okay so I'm I'm going to switch now to a a different

[16:59] example and that is um I learned to play the I taught myself to play the ukulele okay and I I I bought a ukulele when I was in the Navy um when we did a port call coming back from uh deployment in uh 2011 I believe it was we we stopped at stopped off at Pearl Harbor in in Honolulu Hawaii and I was in the uh what's called The Exchange the the the na The Exchange there and they had a you they had you they were selling ukuleles and I thought I remember having one as a

[17:34] kid and I thought oh I'm going to get one wasn't very expensive and and from time to time I would pick it up and kind of play with it a little bit um but never for very long and and and never consistently and and so I never learned to play the ukulele and then when I when the Navy sent me to Germany I was going to be what's called a geobachelor meaning I was going to be there without my family I decided I'm going to bring my ukulele with me and I'm going to commit to practicing every day but Saturday The Jewish Sabbath and and I started out I

[18:10] think practicing just 15 minutes a day and then I went up to 30 minutes a day and I I I I think I eventually worked up to an hour a day and mostly what I did is drilling so I did different kinds of drills I did fingerpicking drills I did strumming drills I did different cord drilled different cords okay just to get the the basic um the basic aspects of playing the ukulele down and after about six or seven months of doing that I could actually

[18:45] play it pretty well and although more recently I haven't practiced on a regular basis what I find now is when I do pick up the ukulele okay a lot of it comes back to me pretty Qui quickly so that that um motor memory of how my fingers need to move has been retain because of the consistent practice so anytime we want to really get good at something it it it's better to practice 15 minutes a day over you know four days

[19:22] or five days a week than it is to practice one hour a day only once a week the consistent practice the continual engaging in practice is much more efficient for becoming better for getting better at getting better right um to use l M's uh term than um then you know a large chunk of practice but just kind of every once in a while okay so make practice consistent next practice Under Pressure

[19:58] okay so you we want to practice in conditions that mimic real life stressors or or that help us prepare for actual situations so use continuing with the the the ukulele um practice that I did so when I got back from Germany um by then I had graduated from my soprano ukulele to a um I had gotten a um Alto ukulele um while I was in Germany a really beautiful ukulele that I and it was it was bigger and as you can see I have

[20:33] these kind of fat fingers so I found it was easier for me to play the alto ukulele and and that that also made it more fun to practice right soprano ukulele is so small for someone who has you know these chubby fingers it it it wasn't as much fun right and so um then I started playing songs and and and sort of pretending like I was actually performing so when I got back from from Germany to Los Angeles um number one um I bought a tenor ukulele which was even

[21:10] bigger than the alto ukulele and was even easier to play um I bought it I I found a used one a very unique instrument um that wasn't you know particularly expensive and then I bought an inexpensive amplifier because the ukulele I I bought had a a a a hookup so I so you could I could plug it in and and I could play it through an amplifier like I might do if I were playing you know a concert and I got a microphone and I I started playing songs and singing the songs and um one of my

[21:46] favorites was um Jet Plane the the famous John Denver song got you know I got to be able to play that really well um learn to play the um three penny version of Mac the knife so various songs that that I really liked um and I created I put together a notebook with the the the um sheet music basically for to as if I were going to play a concert and and sometimes I would even do a little bit of you know patter in between

[22:21] the songs that kind of thing to make it seem like um because my my at least at that time my goal was you know seeing if I could maybe get a gig somewhere you know to play the ukulele right so practice under pressure in other words set things up to make it as real as you possibly can okay to make the circumstances as as authentic to to real life as you possibly can because um then when you if you know when you when you go on to actually um you know do these things in real life you'll be much more

[22:57] comfortable making that transition okay so I'll give you a a a little bit of a Different Twist on this but I think this is this applies so um I I knew someone um who um had a business helping people recover from traumatic brain injuries now at the time she entered the profession uh the this this this type of therapy was only done in essentially a rehab center uh um venue okay um so people and and oftentimes it was it was

[23:33] done on an inpatient basis her she and and I think a couple of colleagues got together and came up with the idea of homebased Rehabilitation for people who suffered from traumatic brain injuries and what they saw was someone who was rehabilitated from a brain injury in a clinic or in a rehab center Center they would get to the point where about as much had been done in the clinic as could be done and so now was time for them to go home but then when they got home it was as if

[24:08] they had to start over again because they had to acclimate themselves to a completely different envi environment and so what what this um friend of mine figured out was you know once someone can go into rehab it's better to let them go home and have the rehab people come to the person at home rehab them in the environment in which they're going to live first of all it's a lot faster getting them up to speed and and back as much as possible to living their

[24:43] previous life that's number one number two it's a lot less expensive so e but at the same time the clinics could be paid more so uh insurance companies loved it because there was a lot less overhead because it wasn't taking place in a clinic um and yet at the same time my my my friend who started a business doing this she could pay her people a lot more than they would have made working in a clinic so it was it was an across theboard win-win for everybody

[25:18] so insurance companies reduced costs people doing the um excuse me doing the the rehabilitation there were speech therapists occupational therapist physical therapists Etc they got paid more than they would have in a clinical setting my friend developed a very lucrative business that she eventually sold for I think seven figures and most importantly because this is really what she was after was the people got a m the the patients got a much better Rehabilitation experience as did their

[25:55] family and their loved ones okay so like I said it was a win-win for everybody really kind of right the essence of Entrepreneurship so that's another way of of of sort of practice under pressure in this sense the person being rehabilitated was was was Rehabilitation right it's nothing more than a form of practice they're practicing in the environment where they're going to live okay all right next slow down okay I mentioned this when I was talking talking about the example of learning to dribble a

[26:30] basketball um when I was talking about deliberate practice so speed in the beginning is actually the enemy of learning to do a skill well speed comes kind of on its own the better you master the skill the faster you'll be able to do it but starting out trying to do it fast will impede your ability to improve your skills so slow down concentrate on accuracy okay

[27:05] so um when I was in in in um um when okay so here here's another example with with my dad see I love talking about my dad right so I mentioned my dad is a a small arms instructor so uh so we used to go um target shooting together um sometimes at an indoor range with pistols sometimes an outdoor range with rifles and you know having grown up watch watching you know westerns and the the the Lone Ranger and and uh trying to think of the

[27:40] other ones I used to watch but anyway Lone Ranger was one of my favorites oh The Cisco Kid that was my all-time favorite um Duncan Ronaldo I actually got to meet him once uh I was just overw he was he lived in Santa Barbara when I was living there um but you know every kid I think wants to be able to like you know bang bang bang bang bang like like they see you know on TV or in the movies right the reality is that um you you know my dad would teach me uh just to start out slow okay start out real slow even when when he was teaching

[28:15] me to fire a semi-automatic uh uh weapon um you know it wasn't like you know bang bang bang bang like that that that was he said shoot you know re Aim Shoot re aim or check your Aim Shoot check your aim right you know make sure like in the case of a rifle he had this beautiful Browning lever action 3030 rifle but for you know I I I think I shot it for the first time I was maybe I want to say 18 and and I was I was a small I mean I'm still a small guy but I was even smaller

[28:51] then um if I didn't keep it you know tucked into my shoulder properly it was like Wham and I you I end up with bruised you know shoulder so so you know get it you know set it fire okay reset other words make sure it's really against my shoulder properly aim right that was much more important than trying to just you know bang bang bang bang rip off a whole lot of shots that weren't going to be accurate so I think it's um the movie Shane U um the the character Shane is uh talking

[29:26] to uh the the little boy about you know gunfighting basically and wa is it Shane Maybe not maybe it's a different movie but but one of these gunfighting and one of the things the gunfighter says is the guy who wins the the gunfight is not the one who's fastest on the draw it's the one who's shest on the draw because someone who's just fast there're is likely to have the shot go astray and have to fire a second time and in the meantime someone who's

[30:03] sure of shot is going to you know connect on the first shot right so to give up a split second of speed in order to make sure you're on target is far more important than than speed itself so for all of those examples whichever one resonates with you right slow down your practice okay next visualiz ation and mental practice okay so think about in your mind your practice this is something I did with

[30:38] when I was um practicing my ukulele so um one of the things I I I had to learn was fingerpicking skills and so sometimes I would just picture in my mind the moving of my fingers in the way they needed to move when you know I couldn't be practicing so maybe I'd be in bed and for whatever reason I couldn't sleep and so I just I just sort of lay back close my eyes and focus on the movement of my uh of my fingers or strumming so I would I would just in my

[31:14] mind I would go over different strums so a like a strum a up down up or I mean yeah up down up strum or a down down up down or something like I would I would you know whatever I might have practiced early earlier that day I would I would sit back and just kind of visualize them um and that can be a very powerful tool for ingraining into your mind the practice that you're trying to make perfect okay um overlearning so people say I don't want to overlearn

[31:49] I I don't want to overtrain so there there is you you can overtrain so for example when I ran a Marathon i i i overtrained for the marathon um I I especially to as I got closer to the race itself I I ran a lot more miles getting ready for it than I needed to which which made which degraded my performance somewhat on Marathon day so that kind of overtraining can be problematic what isn't problematic and what is desirable is overlearning in the

[32:26] sense that we should you know continue to practice and continue to practice Beyond initial proficiency right keep getting better and better look for ways to to improve on our Improvement okay so that um the skills become second nature so so I'll use the example of of of the ukulele uh one of the things I needed to be able to do was to finger cords without looking at my fingers okay because if I'm going to

[33:02] perform I want to be looking at the audience so I can't be looking at my strumming or looking at chords now once in a while maybe like uh if it's a particularly difficult cord or if it's a particularly difficult section of the piece where I really have to you know change chords quickly so I may have to look at it then and that's fine but I can't be staring at my hand the whole time I'd be performing that would not engage the audience so so I really had to overlearn especially the the different chord patterns in order to become very proficient at playing the

[33:38] ukulele right and that's where we want to get to we want to get to the point where our our practice is is second nature okay I I used the example earlier of dribbling the basketball right where I I would have had to get to the point where I could dribble the basketball without looking at it because I have to be aware of what the other players are doing right if I'm just sitting there concentrating on dribbling the basketball and I'm not keeping track of the other players they're going to steal the basketball from me every single time which of course by the way they did which was why I always got chosen last anytime um it was you know that I was

[34:14] playing basketball so okay so overlearn really commit to to making what you're doing second nature okay excuse me so reflect and refine okay so think back about your practice sessions how did they go how could they have gone better what could be done in order to make them more efficient uh in in in helping you improve so again using the example of of learning to play the ukulele

[34:49] so uh I did that a lot the what I started doing was far less efficient and helping me maximize my practice time than where I got to after several months so first of all I organized my different uh drills in a way that would minimize downtime so I could just go from one drill to the next uh and and there was a flow to them okay and and and and I would when I would be out running I would think about you know how can I how can I speed up my

[35:24] Improvement not speed up the playing but speed up the Improvement by you know getting a full you know 30 minutes of practice out of a 30 minute session as opposed to you know five or 10 minutes of that session being devoted to maybe having to switch excuse me switch books or or things like that okay so so reflect on your practice and then refine it make it more efficient make it make it more focused on what you need to do so uh you know once once I once I got to

[35:59] a certain level of proficiency I also refined my practice I started learning different kinds of strums and at first I I tried making them up and and then and it didn't really work so I I I did some research online and I found different tutorials on different types of strums that I could use and then I I learned those strums and then I applied them to different songs to see which songs were which drums were best for a particular song and so then and So eventually I turn my practice sessions into playing

[36:37] actual songs so that I was drill so that the playing of the songs was part of my drilling right and that's really what brought it all together okay finally coach and self- Coach so have a coach um and and um so uh I um I have I had a friend from high school um Jean uh who was a a very talented uh musician she was a piano player among other things and I don't remember how but I I

[37:12] think I happen to see on a Facebook post of hers one day that she had taught herself to play the ukulele and I knew she was a music teacher because when we were in high school uh I had um asked her if she would give me piano lessons now I did want to learn to play the piano but the fact of the matter is I also wanted to spend time with Jean so so that was kind of a double you know that that was you know my my clever High School way of of convincing a girl to spend time with me right um but um so Jean at the time lived in Northern California and so we she you she was

[37:49] really happy to hear that I was learning the ukulele and she was very excited about teaching me remotely and so we would meet I think it was once or maybe twice a week for maybe just 30 or 40 minutes and she would coach me on ways to improve and one of the things that she coached me to do was to learn different strumming patterns and such to fit the songs because up until I started working with Jean I was basically using the same strumming pattern on the ukul for every single song um and so this

[38:25] this was interesting and and you almost literally could have knocked me over with a feather when Jean told me this because I really was pretty over AED by her ability as a musician and I mentioned to her during one of our practice sessions that the reason I had I had when I when I knew Jean in high school I played the clarinet now one thing about the clarinet is it's not an interest in instrument you play and sing with right because the clarinet is in your mouth right um and I one of the the reasons I wanted to learn to play the piano was you could play the piano and sing with

[39:01] it and um you know I I I I love to sing you know if you happen to drive by me on the freeway you will see me singing along with the radio a lot of the time right or in the shower whatever um so um you know I never got particularly proficient at the piano for much the same reason I never got proficient at um at basketball um but having already gained some proficiency with the ukulele it never occurred to me that it was a difficult skill to play and sing at the same time and so I was telling Jean

[39:37] about this and she said yeah she said you know all the years I've been a musician I've never been able to play and sing at the same time she said it's really great that you can do that that one coaching moment between the two of us was was perhaps the most amazing coaching breakthrough I had had in anything that I did with the ukulele the idea that I was doing something that this musician that I have had at that point Jean and I had known each other for decades um it would have been you know over 30 years

[40:12] probably close to 40 years at that point that that I that I revered her musical ability and her teaching ability and and I could do something that she just couldn't do you know and I was like I can't even believe that and then then when she taught me to play different strumming p patterns and that kind of stuff so having a coach who can help you improve who can keep in context your ability uh and many times by the way coaches are coaching their their players whether it's sports or musical instruments

[40:48] whatever the player is actually better at it than the coaches the coaches skill is in the teaching and the coaching right and and so to have someone who who's really strong in that area there is there is just nothing better than that uh but we also have to learn to self- coach so we have to learn to overcome our frustration we have to work to overcome our uh lethargy we have to over learn to overcome a lack of discipline and you know a a coach can

[41:23] help with that but in the end we also have to be able to self- coach and so for me for example when I was first getting into playing the ukulele almost every day of the week I would actually put it in my calendar and I I that was a technique I learned I forget who it was um probably Zig Ziggler or something like that reinforced by my friend Bill gross that if you really are committed to doing something put it in your calendar right so I I put my ukulele practice time in my calendar and when when my calendar p it was time to practice the ukulele I went and

[41:59] practiced the ukulele right so that we can use tools like that to improve our self- coaching ability so so let me just real briefly go over these 10 items again deliberate practice breaking down break down skills focus on feedback make practice consistent practice Under Pressure real life circumstances slow down right visualize in your mind practice iing overlearn make it second nature reflect and refine on your Drilling and your practicing and finally

[42:35] get a coach and learn to self- coach so these 10 things whether we're learning to do a skill like play basketball play a musical instrument or do something that's more professionally oriented maybe learning how to do public speaking maybe learning to write maybe doing a show like like this doing a a pod or a uh you know a video podcast whatever all of these require practice in order to improve but the pra we want to do uh perfect practice not just

[43:12] practicing the same old way we do things keeping at a mediocre level and if we do that then we and we get on this this this path of of consistent Improvement then pretty much nothing is not within our ability to achieve now I'm gonna I'm going to temper that with this remark because I I can I can hear this coming you know through the screen here yes no matter how good at dribbling I became I was never GNA become a great basketball player I was too small okay too short

[43:47] too small okay e even back then when basketball players were were smaller than they are today okay so there are certain constraints of you know physicality that you know no matter what you know I was not going to be in the NBA okay I never aspired to but I wasn't going to be if I had okay so setting those kinds of physical constraints aside if we are willing to commit to deliberate practice and all the other aspects of perfect practice we will inevitably improve in

[44:23] whatever area it is that we've set our goal so that is that's the show for today again the book is uh practice perfect U by Doug Lov and Eric woolway and Katie yai yezi and I will put a link to the book in the show notes on Amazon as as all the links are it'll be a a um affiliate link I I think I would get you know three or four cents if you buy it um but I but I you know require to to announce that and you'll see there'll be a little hashtag ad next to the link

[44:58] because that's what uh Amazon requires uh to comply with FTC regulations and such so I thank you very much for joining me today and tomorrow is my every other week show jigger's place at 5:00 pm Pacific time this is an opportunity as the week is ending for us to get together have a cocktail and my topic for tomorrow is uh come on get happy right and I I I'm going to talk about something I think that many of us me included for a long long time pursued

[45:35] something that I thought would make me happy which actually did the opposite it took me away from being happy and and when I embraced the antithesis of that I realized that that was really what was going to make me happy so sit back hopefully you'll you'll you'll enjoy a cocktail if by the way if you want the cocktail recipe uh please sign up for my email list go to my website b.com scroll down to the bottom put in your email address and click submit and you'll get an email a couple of hours before Showtime

[46:10] uh with the uh the cocktail recipe I I try not to use real exotic stuff in my recipes so um you know if if if you if you have just a you know a few things a whiskey a rye a rum a Jin and and some you know soda water um maybe some uh honey syrup and and a few other things some bitters usually that's all you need to make a cocktail once in a while like the in the cocktail I'm doing tomorrow I use I use a ginger lure that's Pro that's probably not something most people have in their bar but you know what even if you don't have every single

[46:45] ingredient you can still make it it's still probably going to be pretty good so so if you want to get those recipes um please do sign up for my email list and while we're talking about you know selfless uh Shameless promotions if if you're not if you haven't subscribed to my YouTube Channel please do consider subscribing and that way you'll also get a reminder before each show going live so and and then uh next week uh on Monday is a special show for Veterans Day so I hope you'll join me for a special edition of the way to wow show and then on Tuesday of next week 10: am

[47:21] uh Pacific Time same as on Monday 10: a.m. Pacific time will be my show business lessons from the military and then be back a week from today with the next edition of people making money so one last time thanks so much for joining me wishing you a wonderful rest of the day and signing off Marie darling You are my